Godly Relationships and Dating

God, teach us today, Lord, what you want us to hear. Lord, may you sew the seed in our hearts, Lord. Thank you for everything you've done for us and for your son who died on the cross for our sins, Lord. All praise and glory be to you, God, in Jesus name we pray. Amen. Amen. And for our first song, we'll be singing Thank you, Lord. [music] I come [music] before you today and there's [singing] just one [music] thing that I want to say. Thank you, [singing] Lord. Thank [music] you, Lord, [music] for all [singing] you've given to me. for all the blessings that [singing] I cannot [music] see. Thank you, [singing] Lord. Thank [music] you, Lord. [singing] With a grateful [music] heart, with a song of praise, with an outstretched arm, [singing] I will [music] bless your name. Thank you, Lord. [music and singing] I just want to thank you, Lord. [music] Thank [singing] you, Lord. I just want to thank [music] you, Lord. Thank [music] you, Lord, for [music] all you've [singing] done in my life. You took my darkness and [music and singing] gave me your light. Thank you, Lord. [music and singing] Thank you, Lord. You [music] took my sin [singing] and my shame. You took [singing] my sickness and healed all my pain. Thank you, Lord. [music and singing] Thank you, Lord. [music] With a grateful heart, with a sound [singing] of praise, with an [music] outstretched arm, I will bless your name. [music] Thank you, Lord. I just [music] want to thank you, Lord. Thank [music] you, Lord. [singing] I just want to thank you, Lord. [music] Thank [singing] you, Lord. And for our second song, we'll be singing. It [music] is so sweet to trust in Jesus. [music] It is [music and singing] so sweet to trust in Jesus and to [singing] take him at [music] his word. Just to rest [singing] upon his promise and to [music and singing] know thus sayith the Lord Jesus. [music and singing] Jesus how I trust him. [singing] How I do more adore [music] Jesus. Jesus, [singing] precious Jesus, all for grace to trust [music] him [singing] more. Oh, how sweet to trust in Jesus. [music and singing] Just to trust his cleansing blood. and simple faith [music and singing] to plunge me the healing cleansing flood. Jesus, [music and singing] Jesus, how I trust him, [music] how I [singing] adore him. Jesus, Jesus, precious [music] Jesus. All [singing] for grace to trust in [music] so sweet to trust in Jesus. Just from sin itself to cease. [music and singing] us from Jesus. Simply take life [singing] and rest [music] in joy and peace. Jesus, [singing] Jesus, how I trust him, how [music and singing] I adore him. Jesus, [music] Jesus, precious Jesus, [singing] all for grace, to trust [music] him. I'm [music and singing] so glad I learned to trust thee, precious [music and singing] Jesus, Savior, friend. And [music] I know that thou art [singing] with me, will be [music] with me to the end. Jesus, [singing] Jesus, how I [music] trust him, how I [music] adore him. Jesus, Jesus, precious Jesus, all for [singing and music] grace to trust him all. Praise God. Praise the Lord, my brothers and sisters, for this morning that we can all come here together today in the house of the Lord and praise his name and worship his name. And I'm going to be doing our Bible reading for this morning. And that's going to be in Psalms 46, page 812. Psalms 46. And for the Bibles and the pews, it's going to be page 812, Psalms 46. And it says here, "God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore, we will not fear, even though the earth be removed, and the mountains be carried into the midst of the sea, though its waters war and be troubled, though the mountains shake with its swelling. There is a river whose stream shall make glad the city of God, the holy place of the most tabernacle of the most high. God is in the midst of her. She shall not be moved. God shall help her. Just as the break of dawn, the nations raged, the kingdoms were moved. He uttered his voice. The earth melted. The Lord of hosts is with us. The God of Jacob is our refuge. Come. Behold the works of the Lord who has made desolations in the earth. He makes war cease to the end of the earth. He breaks the bow and cuts the spear in two. He burns the chariot in fire. Be still and know that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations. I will be exalted in the earth. The Lord of hosts is with us. The God of Jacob is our refuge. Praise God. And now we'll have Tim uh come up and make a couple announcements and then right after that he's going to leave lead a lecture with a couple of guests. God bless. Praise God church. It's a beautiful morning and uh today we agreed that we are going to be speaking on a topic of relationships and uh dating. I figure that if the church is not going to speak on that, then the world will teach our kids and our members about relationships and dating. So, I'd rather have the church uh teach our people and everyone who comes how to properly seek for a godly relationship. Um we are going to take this few minutes, just a couple minutes, let's meet and greet. And uh while we're doing that, I would need some help just to set up the stage and then we will begin. There will like also a few will have questions just just raise your hand like as we go um if if you have a question to the the guest speakers on stage [music] just raise your hand and we will give you the mic. Okay. So let's take these few minutes and [music] meet and greet. Amen. Heat. Heat. [music] [snorts] [music] [music] [music] I know. [music] [music] [music] Wonderful. [music] [music] [music] Sorry. [music] See what [music] that Is there one more? Okay, everybody. So, these are our guests for this topic, and we'll be doing these topics once a month. The last week of every month, we're going to have a special topic for our church. Oh, thanks, Doug. Yeah, I know I have a lot of things going on, but uh [clears throat] the reason why we decided to do this is because like certain things are better learned at church than in the world, like I said. And like we don't want to come when it's already too late uh to to teach someone or to give somebody uh knowledge and understanding. So this this month our topic is relationships and dating. Uh this is a very important topic since a lot of our church is made up of uh single and ready to mingle people. uh people that are also still young but good good lessons to learn. And also uh for those who are married that uh you can pass on this knowledge um to to your children, grandchildren to make sure that they don't fall into uh sin or into a relationship that will bring them only tears uh down the future. So, uh, my wife said, "It's not Valentine's Day." I'm like, "You know, but that picture looks cool." So, I would like to to uh right now go couple by couple and you just kind of introduce yourself. Um, share with with the audience how long you've been married. Um and uh you know just like a little backstory and how you met, how did you meet? So uh we have an audience of just newlyweds to already seasoned uh families because I wanted like a scope of uh different times. Um, not those times that my kids say, "Dad, how big were the dinosaurs?" I'm like, "I don't know." So, so not those times. But, uh, we will start from our newlyweds and kind of go down the down the road. Okay. So, um, I think some of you guys know me. My name is Vlad. This is my wife Jessica. and we've been married since October 2025. So, it's coming up on a year. Um, but how how can I say we met? I was a best man at my best friend's wedding and I saw her over there and I noticed her and I thought she was uh kind of cute. She had a nice smile and and it something kind of sparked in my mind. And then later on uh towards the end of the wedding uh when we were already leaving and I was leaving with my uh how you can say uh group then she kind of came up towards the end already and we started talking and I kind of saw her eyes light up a little bit too [laughter] and so uh that's kind of how we met and um kind of uh took it a little bit to the next step. After that, I already uh asked her out. I DM'd her and asked her for her phone number. Uh and then from there, I asked her for a So, you Okay. I was going to say that's already what the wife does. You already expecting that. No, I'm just joking. Uh uh Jessica, so when when you saw Vlad um the thing started like he asked you out, what was going through your mind? Uh well, I immediately wanted to tell somebody about it. So my brother was also in town with me. So I told him, I was like, "Guess who asked me out?" [laughter] He couldn't guess. And then I asked my mom for advice what to do. And she was like, "You can go on the coffee date. It doesn't mean you're getting married, [laughter] but we did get married. That's great. Okay, Alex. Um, so, so same uh question to you, like how did you meet and um what what attracted you to to Jana? Well, my story is a little bit longer than that. Oh, and by the way, how long have you been married? Yes. So we got married with Jana on uh July 20th of 2013. So some coming up on 13 years. Um and how did I meet or how did we meet is um we went to a trip with my brother and uh prior my brother visited this church and I actually visited long time ago too and so he was showing me in the recent pictures of people And I was completely in different state. I was not in this state. I was in uh state of Washington at that time. And uh we were in Vancouver BC when I was looking through the pictures. And um I saw her in one of the pictures. I wasn't even checking the pictures out. I just happened to glanced. And when I glanced in that picture, she caught my eye right away on that picture from the Facebook. And so um I went to sleep very upset that there's nothing going to happen. I was 31 years old at that time. I'm in different state and I saw a beautiful lady but how do I meet? And so uh later on um my brother said that he's going for another work trip to Boise. And I said you have only one mission to get her name and her phone number. How you going to get it? I don't know. Uh [laughter] it's just your one mission. I don't care about your work. You got to do that. And so he says, "I will try." I go, "Well, I will support you with my prayer and uh I'll call you. I'm going to ask you and um you keep me an update." And so I called him every day, believe me or not, the two weeks he was here. and he was only being able to talk to her and get her number at the very last day. He had to fly out on Saturday. He got the number on Friday. And so for me, I didn't have to wait much on Monday morning or Monday. I took a fasting day. I prayed all day and evening time I texted her. I think I texted you Sunday, but that I will call her on Monday evening. We agreed on a time and that's when I'll start it. I can be talking for more, but I'm not going to take much time. Okay. And uh Jana, like when he texted you, what was going through your mind? Well, I mean, I already knew he was going to be texting me because uh his the way his brother he came up to me and I didn't think that it was going to be this conversation. I thought his brother was wanting or interested in me and I knew he was a lot younger. So, I had a speech prepared to say how I'm not interested. [laughter] But he started out with saying um he figured out my schedule and it was actually during orchestra I was getting out and then I saw his brother parked right by my car and he's leaning and on his car and that's when I'm like okay I think this is my speech right now and then he's like Jana can I talk to and I said yeah sure and then he started out I have an um an older brother he's Christian guy. He's, you know, a leader. You seem like a really good girl. And um I was not expecting that, but I was like, he asked me for the phone number, and I was like, how can I give a phone number to someone I've never even seen, but I had no reason to say no. And so, I gave the number, but I was thinking, I don't know how I did this, but I'm giving it to God. And then he texted me the next day. He called me. We talked for an hour and a half. Four months later, we were married. Wow. Amen. Okay. Uh Jean and Lana. Jean. So, so same uh question. I share with the audience how long you've been married and what like how did it happen? Hello, my my name is Yugen. team set. So my our our story is going to be probably shorter than Alex because like we live we live like in same town, same church. So we met like in this church and and even like I proposed her in parking lot over there. So it was like much shorter and much easier than like [laughter] like Alex situation, you know. So yeah, uh I live here in 20 for for 27 years and we married for 26. Almost 26. Almost 26. Yeah. So there is our oldest son over there. So laugh. So yeah. So it happened like kind of like really quick, you know. It's mean uh like I just remember right now it was like much like much much easier than there there I thought because I had like even like different plan for my wife for for my life and I was like planning go to California for dental school but I guess like God has like different plans for me so I didn't go anywhere because I met her. Okay. Yeah. So just amen. Stay stayed here and probably that's my destiny I guess. Okay. And Lana when like when he started talking to you what was going like what kind of emotions you felt? Well, um the thing is um I used to be friends with his cousin Ena Illus Illusa, you know, and um they came from Russia and and she actually introduced him to us. Um so this is my cousin Dini Elucha and I saw um from the first time I saw when he was like looking at me you know I saw that he probably follow I mean it was not the love from the first side probably it is for him [laughter] you know when he saw me I saw that he was like looking at me nonstop and I'm like okay like that's interesting you know like [laughter] we just met you know and I I mean the relationship didn't start right away because um I got engaged to someone else in few months and that relationship did not work worked out and um and then later on um maybe when the my other relationship broke down um his cousin again you know in one month after my breakdown she came to me and she's like you know that um somebody really really loves you, you know, and I'm like, "Oh, please don't talk to me right now. I'm not ready yet. I just my rel my uh old re relationship just broke down and I'm not ready for like another relationship, you know, and um and then and then like um three months passed and Jessica mom Jessica's mom, you know, she's like, "Lana, why don't you come?" and do my hair for the wedding because she's supposed to get married, you know. Um, and I'm like, "Okay, you know, okay, okay, I will do your hair, you know, for the wedding." And when I was doing her hair, you know, it's like a try out, you know, for the wedding. She's like, you know, that somebody really, really loves you, you know, [laughter] and I'm like, and she's like, "Guess who?" And I'm like, "You've gain." [laughter] I knew right away, you know, if it was you gain, you know, and she's like, "If he's going to come and propose to you, are you going to say yes or no?" And I'm like, and I just I start thinking, you know, like maybe, you know, like I'm ready at this time, you know, for a new relationship. you and and I've told her yes, I will probably say yes to him, you know, and um and after after like two weeks pass. Yes. And um and I saw him, he's waiting for me outside the church. And I knew right away that he's going to propose to me [laughter and gasps] and he was smiling and everything. And I'm like walking like really shy. And this is when my nerves kicked in. I started smiling, [laughter] you know, because I knew right away that he's going to propose to me. So he did propose to me in the front of the church on the parking lot. Yeah, it's okay because I proposed to my wife at a warehouse. So, so I think I think that's a lot uh not as romantic as the church. Um, okay. Well, like Lana uh kind of like answered this already in her, but uh Alex and Andana, when did you know that you were ready to start dating or start pursuing this relationship? Well, we didn't really date. Um we just talked over the phone. I first saw Jana um a month after my first phone call. Um kind of like I don't know, we just the first conversation that we have over the phone. Jana says I did most of the talking. Well, I had to, right? Um so, um she didn't see me. She just hears me, right? And so I said everything about myself, who I am and who I who I was and what I was doing in church, in life. And um and then kind of like we agreed to call uh the next day, which actually we did call again. And and they every day after that. And then um uh by just talking we were able to um I wanted to come visit her in person and I knew in my heart that I'm ready to propose to her. Was she ready or not that she's going to tell that? I don't know. But I came the month later and um saw her the first time. We went that same night. We went to church. It was a youth service. I had to preach that church in that church and um and then we went out to a tea or coffee just to the park and and I believe after the tea or coffee or before the tea or coffee doesn't matter. I u proposed to her and I told her don't give me an answer just yet think about it. Um, and that was Friday evening. Saturday, um, I went to her parents to meet her parents and just to spend the time with them that day cuz I was out of town. I didn't know anybody that much at that time. So, I spent that whole day with them fixing her car. So I fixed her car during that day and uh I left on Saturday evening back home to Washington and uh but you gave me the answer that Saturday evening and so that was uh I already was coming back home on sat Sunday so it was two days um with the answer. Amen. And um [clears throat] so [sighs] you you saw Jana um on a photo, but like were you in that that time where you felt like you were ready to already uh pursue uh marriage? Um or was it just like just happened. I actually was ready to pursue marriage way before that. Um I was at 31 years old when or when we got married. Um I had my house I bought my house when I was 20 years old and I was preparing it for my future wife and um I prayed a lot um about my future wife. Uh when I was 17, I I took a baptism um you know with in church and one of the older pastor who I really um he was a not active pastor but he was a pastor uh where I went to the prayers all the time and he was the leader of that. He was at 80 years old at that time. And his wish to me was or the blessing that he gave when he was congratulate me on the baptism day. He came up to me and he says two things. Uh he goes, "I want to bless you with this. Start praying for your future wife and run." What's that word again? Stay away from sin. Stay away from the sin and run from it as you're running from your death. That's the two advices he gave me. And I actually took it be uh from him very literally and seriously because he was um a very high um uh example in my uh in my life and my eyes. how he prayed, how he lived his life, how God blessed him being 80 years old, being so strong, being so um uh he could see without glasses, he could walk without walker, he could be so powerful in a prayer and God spoke through him and all of that. And so I took his advice and I start praying for my wife back then at 17 years old, literally daily. and uh and I asked God to prepare my future wife. Well, there were some girls that I liked but nothing worked out and I always g I knew right one. I thought a lot about that picture like why did it caught my eye so much that it grabbed me that I I wanted to find her? I wanted to find her name. I wanted to find her number and I knew that that God was doing and for him the distances the uh the time it it's nothing and he can bless through all of that. Thank you. Uh, [clears throat] this is for Vlad and Jessica. How did you know that Jessica was the one? And same question for Jessica. How did you know that Vlad was the one? Um, yeah. So, I was So, how can I start this off? Um, I was talking to some girls uh throughout my life and I always tried to kind of use my own efforts to uh make something happen, but nothing would ever happen. I'd always either be rejected or the girl didn't like me. And so I went through uh many years of that. Um, but eventually I decided, you know, I'm going to fast and pray about it. And so I started um maybe two or three years before I met Jessica, I started fasting almost every single week. And my main fast was about my future wife and uh so my uh future can be blessed. And so that was one of the things I did. And um and I kind of gave it to the Lord. And I was trying to do less of how I wanted to do it, but I just gave it to God. And eventually I ran into Jessica, like I said, at the wedding. Um, and I asked her out for a date. And from there, we went on a date. And at first, I didn't think she liked me at all. Actually, she was very neutral. And I didn't even see a little bit um that she kind of liked me. Uh, I was I I came back from the date and I told my mom, I'm like, I don't think she's the one for me. I don't think she likes me at all. you'd like another one, I'd be up for it. Um, and so she replies to me. She also said like, "I really enjoyed the date. Uh, and I'd like to start off as friends." And so how I kind of got that message was, "Okay, I got rejected." [laughter] But she'll tell her side of the story. But I thought I was already rejected and I'm like, "Oh man, again already I'm like so tired of this. I'm so tired of dealing with girls already." [laughter] And so um and so from there um I I'm just like, you know, whatever. I'm giving it to God. And a few days later, I get another text and I'm already a little bit depressed, you know, again. Again, I got rejected and I'm like trying to forget about her. Uh, and I get a picture of her in one of the spots uh, of where I took her on a date and it was a flower garden in Boise. And then she sent me a picture of herself with a few of her uh, friends and cousins. And I'm like, man, that's the place that I took her on the date. Why is she showing all the people, you know, like she's trying to rub it in my face or something? But anyways, as soon as I got that picture, I'm like, okay, maybe she's still thinking about me, you know, and um, I'm like, maybe it's not over. And then my cousin tells me, "Hey, I think you got uh that text message. You received it incorrectly, like you didn't you didn't get the message of what she was actually trying to say." And so from there, um I already kind of gave up on it, but I saw it came back. And so that's when I knew maybe this is actually from the Lord this time. Um because I didn't have to put in my own effort to try to get her back, you know? Amen. And that's kind of how I knew she was the one. Um, okay. So, how I knew he was the one. Uh, well, there's like a few things that I thought, you know, for my future husband should be checked off. And of course, he was a Christian and we kind of knew each other uh our whole lives, but we never talked until the wedding. And um so I kind of knew of him, but I we never really talked. So I kind of wanted to get to know him first, see what he was about, if he was like actually Christian. Just cuz you go to church doesn't mean you're Christian. So I wanted to get to know him and and make sure that first. And um once I found out he was actually Christian, it kind of uh confirmed it for me. And I could tell he was very serious and um also ready. Yeah. Awesome. Okay. And I guess that's the the next uh question that I do have uh for for Yana. Um what was something important you wanted to see in your future spouse before considering uh marriage? But hold on a second. Hey boys. H I know you guys are excited, you know, but but let's give them to speak. So So that's a question to Yan. Okay. Can you repeat that one? Uh what was something important you wanted to see in your future spouse before considering marriage? Well, um, first of all, I was also 30 years old when Alex, uh, you know, called me. And obviously, I was not looking for just, hey, how are you? You know what I mean? Like, [laughter] you know, let's get to know each other. I was looking for a marriage as well. And the way that before he called me, he wrote me a text message and that text message is what made me. He showed who he was. He introduced himself. He told me of his intentions and he asked for my permission and I'm like that is very Christian gentleman like I have not seen that in other you know I've seen I've had other guys text you know hey what's up no don'ts what's me you know I I don't it's just it's it's so important just even the way that first conversation and it was that first text message and he showed his Christian like and then when he called me it was the same thing. He um he asked about me he told about himself and his values his um just who he is and it's definitely that he loved the Lord and that was the main thing. Amen. So [clears throat] I have this uh next slide and I actually want to we don't have much time but I want to ask first the women and then the men but uh Lana what are some red flags that a single woman should recognize as signs to step away from a relationship? What are red flags? Well, in my case, I mean, it's been the relationship that has actually did not work out. Um, the red flags are um when he started lying to you. This is number one thing. And when he after the engagement whenever um he start mistreating you, you know, like he he start acting different. You know, because I when I was praying and fasting, I was telling God that like I want my husband to be godly man and um the man that he will really love me and respect me and my family, you know, and um the relationship that did not work out. At first, he would show that like he respect my family and he loves God. But when we got engaged, that person totally changed. So this is like red flags. And um so the true colors came out after the engagement. And sadly to say that um I I was sad that it had to go all the way to engagement and then he had to show his true face. The colors. Yeah. And but sometimes it just happens like this. I don't know. Praise God for everything. Yeah. Yeah. You know, uh that's what I like when Lana said that she was praying and fasting for a godly man. Um God God by her prayers answered. and uh maybe she was being tested to see if she's going to listen to the Lord's uh voice or is she going to try to push it through kind of like brother Vlad was saying, you know, I just gave it into God's hands. Um so that's yes uh a good story. Uh Jana, so same question to you. What are some red flags that a single woman should recognize as signs to step away from a relationship? I think this is actually a very important one because um a lot of women uh tend to think that oh if like if this guy doesn't like me then nobody will and then they try to push it through and then they get married and then they have tears all their lives. Um so Jana okay well um I did write that was one of the questions that I actually wrote down for myself. Um I believe the major red flag is when you have to compromise your beliefs and values in the relationship. It's when you know he tells you, "Oh, it's okay." You know, the Bible doesn't say, you know, like he manipulates or misinterprets Bible's verses to um so that's uh one of the red flags when he has uncontrollable anger. When you see how he acts um towards others or towards you, that's a very when he's controlling um when you see that he controls every move or you know tells you what to do when you're not even his wife yet or um also when uh he cannot resolve conflict in a healthy Christlike manner and the and when he tries to cut you away from family and your trusted friends and the main thing that I can tell you is listen to your trusted friends and your family when they see something is not right listen because they care for you. Amen. So Jessica, so same question. What are some red flags that a single woman should recognized as signs to step away from a relationship rather than keep on pushing it through? I mean, Yanda got, you know, so many good points. Uh, also I think yeah, kind of with the family, if your parents or his parents aren't blessing it, that's going to be like a stumbling stumbling block your entire life. If um it's [clears throat] like a issue you can't resolve in a short amount of time, uh, it's going to be kind of a lifelong issue. I feel like that's a huge red flag. Okay. Okay. And same question to the gentleman. Uh I think this will be our last slide but but maybe we can continue this next week because I think just one Sunday is not enough. Uh so so we'll continue this next week as well. Uh because there's some really important questions that we didn't get into but we'll start the same question with the men. Uh, Brother Vlad, what are some red flags that a single man should recognize as signs to step away from a relationship? Um, well, there's a few that I can think of right right off the top of my head, but uh, one of them is if you're already kind of seriously talking to her and she's talking to multiple guys to try to see, you know, who is the best one, try to test out the waters, I think that's kind of a [snorts] red flag because if if you're already kind of getting serious and you see that, that's not a good sign. I think that's a a red flag. Uh, and then also I would say uh if if the girl is kind of drawing you away from God, if you see that um you're compromising um as well, then it's she's not for you probably. Um in some cases it it might be different, but you probably don't want a future wife like that that always takes you away from the Lord. Amen. Brother Alex, it's kind of hard for me to summarize it like that, but um for me always was a internal uh voice that I listened to when I spoke with some girls. I saw that she's not there for me or with me even in this conversation. and that pushed me away right away cuz I I knew that um she's she's not up to me. She's thinking about somebody else or or or I'm just not that. So that's one thing. Second thing, and that was the most and biggest for me cuz I kind of got married later and I was publicly um involved in with a lot of people around me. Um and um the girls that don't value themselves and being easy to get, those girls are where red flag for me like right away. And so um if they are doing the initiative and if they're offering themselves, if they are going in that direction um trying to um kind of make make you to end up being with them, those were the biggest red flags for me. Um and I took and I took that upon that uh advice from that older man that run for life from that and I really and that's what saved me a lot. I've had so many frame situations at my job previous job. I used to be a store manager, assistant store manager for for a big big store, grocery store. And there was a lot of women in there that tried to get me to be with them. And God protected me because those red flags were so obvious to me and they were my red flags that I I helped um helped me stay away from those kind of relationship even though um sometimes they're so creative and I'm not trying to deceive anybody or put down any but it's just you really see that and if you have value for yourself as a man and you admire the ma value that the lady the girl should have and um if you don't see that that's a red flag. Uh Jean, same question has been already said everybody like said said almost like everything I guess but for uh I would say probably some red flags it's like if person like like my my wife said if she's like not saying the truth if like she's li she's lying to you you can see it's like red flag number one and if she's like disrespectful like not willing grow to to in God you know and uh maybe like man money man money man money man money man money man money man money man money man money man money man man man man manipulative you know this this kind of this kind of like you know person I would say probably would stay from this kind of person yeah so and as been mentioned like it's very important to fast and and pray for that because if you're going to do that like we we've been like learning from our parents and like grandparents They they like taught us because Yeah. of our like values. If you're going to pray and you're going to fast, you're going to be like you're going to be saved from that. Yeah. And like it was well said. Um, also I do I do agree that that red flags are those things where the the other side is lying to you. The other side is not showing who they truly are. Um, so they're trying to manipulate you. The big one that we heard is when they try to twist the scriptures, when they try to twist the Bible for you to do something that is ungodly. Um, run from that relationship. Um and how we also heard where uh disrespectful if if he or she is already disrespecting you when you are dating. Listen, marriage it's that's that's not even showing their full colors yet. That's not even showing their full colors yet. Uh marriage is when all the colors are come out. So if the other side is disrespecting you, women, girls, run from that guy, men run from that woman because they will never respect you after uh you get serious and get married. I think we'll just end service here and we'll just do our last prayer and um we'll continue this topic next week. Okay. Are you guys all going to be able to make it? God willing. God willing. Okay. Well, okay. Let's all stand up and we'll finish off with a prayer and we'll end our service. Lord God, uh we are so thankful, Lord Jesus, for this time, God, that we can discuss about biblical relationships, Lord, and what um our our church, our youth, our children, our friends should look for, should should uh uh go for and strive for, Lord God. And how we heard a lot of prayer and fasting, Lord God, because [music] these are important marriages, Lord. These are important futures, Lord God. And Lord, if you are not in [music] that relationship, Lord God, then it's just going to be an uphill battle all the way, God. I pray for blessing upon each person here, Lord God, that the power of the of the Holy [music] Spirit teaches us, Lord, how to be in a godly and loving relationship with our other [music] uh half. Lord, thank you for everything in Jesus' name. Amen. Our Father in heaven, [music] hallowed be your name. Your kingdom come, your will be done [music] on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our sins as we forgive [music] those who sinned against us. Lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one. For your kingdom, [music] your power and glory